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Eight Keys to Forgiveness. Free article by forgiveness scholar Robert Enright adapted from his book of the same title.
When another person hurts us, it can upend our lives. Sometimes the hurt is very deep, such as when a spouse or a parent betrays our trust, or when we are victims of crime, or when we’ve been harshly bullied. Anyone who has suffered a grievous hurt knows that when our inner world is badly disrupted, it’s difficult to concentrate on anything other than our turmoil or pain. When we hold on to hurt, we are emotionally and cognitively hobbled, and our relationships suffer. Read more…
Forgiveness: Breaking the Chain of Hate, by Michael Henderson. These heart-moving stories from around the world will permanently expand your sense of what is possible between people. Excerpt from Gene Knudsen Hoffman’s review: “There is a way the world can change from war to peace, from hatred to love. It requires a lot of effort, a lot of understanding, and it begins at home. For centuries we’ve been told to practice it, that it’s healing for ourselves and the other, that it’s a way to manifest love and courage. It brings peace to the participants. It is a brave and noble thing to do, and — it can be very costly, costly to pride, to arrogance, to fear, to hate. Michael Henderson has written the definitive book on it and it’s called: Forgiveness.” Read full review.
Of it Desmond Tutu wrote, “A deeply moving and eloquent testimony to the power of forgiveness in the life of individuals, of communities, and between and within nations. It effects change — a powerful book.”
From the publisher: How could survivors of the Burma Road, the Siberian Gulag, or Nazi atrocities forgive those who harmed them? How can representatives of entire populations–Australian Aborigines, African Americans, and black South Africans–be reconciled with whites who exploited them? And how can the offenders find the grace to apologize?
Michael Henderson writes about dozens of remarkable people of many nations and faiths who have, by repentance and forgiveness, been able to break the chain of hate through repentance and forgiveness.
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Forgive for Good , by Fred Luskin, PhD. With clear and gentle steps, Dr. Luskin will guide you to “take your hurt less personally, take responsibility for how you feel, and become a hero instead of a victim in the story you tell.” Here is a brief review comment by Jan Sollish posted on Amazon: ” Forgive for Good is an invaluable tool for just about everyone. The methods Dr. Luskin teaches through his book are clear, easy to understand and implement, and incredibly powerful. The chapter in which he describes his work with the women from Northern Ireland who had lost loved ones in the fighting is so moving as to be life altering. The pain of these women, the horror of their experience, and finally their subsequent relief from some of the emotional pain they have carried for years is simply amazing. For me, this book combined a practicality of everyday life with a gentle spirituality. I have already bought it for several friends and plan to use it as a tool in my life as well.” (Price: appx. $12/new, $7/used.
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Announcing… the world’s first (so far as I know) print-it-yourself and e-mail it to a friend bumper sticker. We provide the inspiring message, you provide the sticky stuff. (Requires access to a color printer, a pair of scissors, and 40 inches of 2-inch wide clear packaging tape.) Click on the image below to bring up a full size image of the bumper sticker. Print image on color printer, cut out and affix to bumper of car with clear packing tape. To protect the paper from sun and rain, cover both the front and back surfaces of the bumper sticker with high quality, clear packaging tape. (Will last a month or two, depending on amount of direct exposure to sunlight.)
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Web sites/links/essays/articles on forgiveness:
COMPASSIONATE LISTENING by Kari Thorene From: YES! A Journal of Positive Futures – Fall 1998. Citizen diplomats in Israel use active listening to help build the foundation for Jewish/Palestinian reconciliation. Illustrates the role that listening can play in the journey toward forgiveness.
Why Forgive? By Johann Christoph Arnold. Read these stories of forgiveness from people who have earned the right to talk about overcoming hurt, and about the peace of mind they have found in doing so.
The Forgiveness Project collects and shares stories from individuals and communities who have rebuilt their lives following hurt and trauma. Founded in 2004 by journalist, Marina Cantacuzino, The Forgiveness Project provides resources and experiences to help people examine and overcome their own unresolved grievances. The testimonies we collect bear witness to the resilience of the human spirit and act as a powerful antidote to narratives of hate and dehumanisation, presenting alternatives to cycles of conflict, violence, crime and injustice.
Journey Toward Forgiveness: A documentary for ABC TV produced by Mennonite Media for the National Council of Churches (USA)
Steps Toward Forgiveness: Two articles by Fred Luskin, Ph.D. researcher on forgiveness, based at Stanford University.
International Forgiveness Institute was an outgrowth of the social scientific research done at the University of Wisconsin-Madison since 1985 by Robert Enright and his colleagues. Professor Enright was looking for a way to disseminate the findings of that research, and the research and writings by others exploring forgiveness, to interested people in all walks of life. The IFI has served as that forum ever since. https://internationalforgiveness.com