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Becoming A Kind Father: A Son’s Journey By Calvin Sandborn The macho society that held John Wayne as a role model has created an emotional wasteland where 80 percent of men are unable to accurately express their feelings, and that same percentage feel estranged from their fathers. The stifled male, disconnected and out of touch, fills the void with apathy or anger, and the toll is staggering: short, unhealthy lives, ruined relationships, and damaged children. This destructive behavior repeats itself in the next generation as the sins of the father continue the cycle. In Becoming the Kind Father, Calvin Sandborn aims to break that cycle. His intensely personal story is heart-searing and inspirational. Brought up to fear his father’s alcohol-fueled fury and hateful put-downs, the author buried his feelings and fine-tuned his own rage. His father’s early death and the collapse of the author’s marriage provided catalysts for change. Interspersing clever literary references with painful childhood memories, intense self-examination, and astute observations, Sandborn provides well-researched psychological findings and self-help tips, including how to: Identify and share feelings — Treat yourself as a kind father would — Form trusting male friendships –Break the anger habit — Forgive the world and yourself. This guide offers helpful insight for the millions of men who want to become kinder human beings. A must-read for every woman who loves an angry or emotionally distant man. Read: Excerpt Listen: Audio Podcast Part 1 Audio Podcast Part 2 Calvin Sandborn is a journalist, author, and environmental lawyer who currently supervises the University of Victoria Environmental Law Clinic. He is also a kind father and grandfather. (Price of book: appx. $16, new. ISBN-13: 978-0865715820 . Look for this book at your local library, order from your favorite local bookstore or click here to order a new or used copy from the NewConversations+Amazon Books Link.)
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk , by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. New York: Avon Books. 1980. A book for parents and everyone who wants to improve their communication with kids. Full of wonderfully informative cartoon sequences illustrating the major points. (Price: appx. $12.50. ISBN: 0380570009. )
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Raising Your Spirited Child : A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic. By Mary Sheedy Kurcinka Review from Amazon.com: Recently, temperament traits have come to the forefront of child development theory. In Raising Your Spirited Child, Mary Sheedy Kurcinka’s first contribution is to redefine the “difficult child” as the “spirited” child, a child that is, as she says, MORE. Many people are leery about books that are too quick to “type” kids, but Kurcinka, a parent of a spirited child herself and a parent educator for 20 years, doesn’t fall into that trap. Instead, she provides tools to understanding your own temperament as well as your child’s. When you understand your temperamental matches–and your mismatches–you can better understand, work, live, socialize, and enjoy spirit in your child. By reframing challenging temperamental qualities in a positive way, and by giving readers specific tools to work with these qualities, Kurcinka has provided a book that will help all parents, especially the parents of spirited children, understand and better parent their children. (Price: appx. $13/new, $6/used. ISBN: 0060923288. Look for this book at your local library, or g et m ore info about this book plus purchase links to many countries at Global-Find-A-Book .
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child By John M. Gottman, Joan Declaire, Daniel P. Goleman
Every parent knows the importance of equipping children with the intellectual skills they need to succeed in school and life. But children also need to master their emotions. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child is a guide to teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional world. And as acclaimed psychologist and researcher John Gottman shows, once they master this important life skill, emotionally intelligent children will enjoy increased self-confidence, greater physical health, better performance in school, and healthier social relationships. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will equip parents with a five-step “emotion coaching” process that teaches how to:
* Be aware of a child’s emotions * Recognize emotional expression as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching * Listen empathetically and validate a child’s feelings * Label emotions in words a child can understand * Help a child come up with an appropriate way to solve a problem or deal with an upsetting issue or situation
Written for parents of children of all ages, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will enrich the bonds between parent and child and contribute immeasurably to the development of a generation of emotionally healthy adults. Look for this book at your local library, or g et m ore info about this book plus purchase links to many countries at Global-Find-A-Book .